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Understand your child's behaviour
By Team Babygogo
How to deal with your child when he picks up bad behaviour? You need to understand that our children learn from us and like every human being children also crave attention. At such a young age they hardly have any idea of good and bad behaviour.
What goes on in your child's mind
Your toddler is at an age when his mind is impressionable and he may tend to copy almost everything and everyone he sees. Your toddler is not able to distinguish between fantasy and reality and this, coupled with his imagination, makes for an alarming combination.
So if your toddler sees a dance number from the latest Hindi movie and imitates it, complete with suggestive hip movements and bawdy gestures, don't get angry ; he expects you to clap and smile just like when he sang and acted out "Twinkle Twinkle Little Star".
How can I deal with such behaviour?
Here are a few tips which may help
#1. Don’t encourage him:If you or other family members laugh or praise your toddler the first time that you see him shaking his bottom, he is bound to repeat it thinking it is something which pleases you.
It will stop being "cute" when he does it the next time in front of your husband’s colleague who has come home for dinner.Don’t talk to your friends about how cute your toddler looks dancing to the soundtrack of the latest Bollywood flick.
#2. Don’t be too harsh: It is important to remember that your toddler is merely copying behaviour he has seen. In fact, he is too young to even know what bad behaviour is.
So even as you don’t encourage him, it is equally important that you don’t overreact and come down harshly on him; not only is he too young to understand the cause for your anger but he may also repeat the behaviour since he knows it gets some attention from you.
#3. Respond consistently: Your toddler will only get confused if you encourage him to dance to the latest tunes in front of his grandparents when they visit but scold him if he dances to the same tune at a restaurant. Be consistent and respond in the same way each time till he understands that it is not acceptable.
#4. Respond firmly: If your three year old holds your face in his hands and tries to kiss you on the lips in an imitation of a scene he has seen in a movie, gently but firmly turn his face and let him kiss you on your cheek while you give him a big hug and tell him how much you love him.
A few more times of this and he will lose interest or understand that this gesture is not one that pleases you.
If he insists on continuing with the gestures or dance moves, make eye contact with him and say "No" firmly till he understands that he isn’t allowed to repeat it.
Treat this behaviour like you would any other behaviour such as hitting, kicking ,biting, or throwing toys which you want him to stop; don’t say "Shame Shame" or label his actions as "dirty" because this will only end up making him feel upset and confused.
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