Hi plz help me I get very angry and depressed wenever elders compare with other baby and compare with olden periods how they use to take care . even if I try to explain they repeat.Every time they keep on pointing at things. I ignore it but I take in my mind and shout at my hubby and end up in fight with him

Hi ,
First of all relax.You are not alone. It happens with many of us.
Secondly , being elders they will tell you what to do and how to do many a times.
Listen , yes listen , sometimes life experiences are very helpful. BUT you have to decide what you want to adopt for your child. You are the mother . No one else in the world knows your baby better than you and no one else can decide what’s good for your baby.
About the comparison with other babies , you can firmly yet politely explain to them that each child is special and comparisons aren’t right.
You are doing a great job as a mother. Nothing else matters.

Thank u. I don't aruge with them but it created a bad impression abt me tat I am not listening to them. Eg wen my baby was 1 month they adviced me to give coffee, honey etc etc to my baby then cows milk. When she was 4 month home made food, cereals and all. I was against it. Till now they pointing at me. Tat all inside me getting fustrated

It's good that u raised ur voice against wrong advices given to u for baby.U r not alone , many mothers have gone thru it.U do what is right for ur baby & take right advices & ignore the rest.If baby is chubby then also many will b there to advice that's something wrong with baby & if baby is lean they will say mother is not taking care properly.Concentrate on making ur daughter smart & confident and she will b ur biggest strength.If it hubby doesn't understands u leave it.No need to argue if u r not getting any benefit from it.In free time or when baby sleeping do whatever u like so that ur mind remains diverted from stress due to others.

Thq mam

Ya same problem am also facing.
If elders are saying means listen to them. Say ok.
But yourself u ignore there words.
Do what u wants to do.
You no need to discuss with your husband.
And no need to fight.
Just take it light.
Forget than and there itself.

Same phase i have gone through. Even till today. Now I reserve my mind and myself with positive thinking. Talking people never help you with hand . They remain always negative. Let them go. Be firm as a mother and possessive about your baby. Listen them carefully and took the suitable one for your baby. Husband issue is like that you discuss about malaria with mosquito. Remember no one can be mother for your child.