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If you want him to improve his writing, let him play with small blocks and give him playdoe to strengthen his muscles in his hands.Let him use big paintbrushes, big pieces of chalk and even his finger) to practice letters and numbers. These methods are more fun and he will not feel frusterated. This seems more fun than more (always present it as a fun way). In his own time, he will learn how to write. Encourage by reading as much as you can and let him do scribbling! In fact draw scribbles like him and incorporate a real letter or number in it.
Eventually he will be a good writer.Yes it can be leggible, but dont expect perfection. Just encourage and have fun!👍

Maybe he is doing to gain your attention... Do you have another baby... Maybe your focus is getting diverted and he is feeling left out....try to know why is he screaming... Beating won't help.. He will do more.. Speak with him..

It is very much normal.. She is too small to understand things.. She will definitely change once she grows up and go to school.. Now you cant expect much.. Just keep on repeating to her that her behaviour is not good...

For getting a toddler to do things, the easiest approach is to ask them like a normal person: Can you please, put away your toys, it’s time for dinner. Add a little praise at the end (little only) well done, thanks for listening is what I say with a smile on my face so they know it makes me happy. The other approach is asking in a singsong fun kind of way: tidy, tidy , tidy up ( to the tune of row your boat). If it’s something you are asking for the first time, model the behavior you would like to see. Kids look up to you as the prime example of how to behave. I showed my nieces how to tidy up for ages before I could simply say toys in the box it’s time for bed.

Telling a child to stop doing something normally does need some Authority in your voice, if asking nicely as in “hey, stop picking your nose please” doesn’t work, try simplify it short “don’t pick your nose” or “hands down, fingers don’t belong in noses, because that’s silly” and make it a little fun instead of a telling off.

If they ignore you the first time, it’s best to go over to them tap on the shoulder, look them in the eye and say “I asked you to ...., please”. If you get flat out refusal here, time out but, explain to them why it’s time out. You are going to time out because you did not listen.

Like I said 50:50 odds but, this works mostly for me apart from my kid who thinks my mad face is hilarious.

Try reading: Jo Seager: toddler care Or Talk so Kids will listen : Faber and King

They have a variety of approaches and real world scenarios to help with this kind of thing.

Good luck :)

Tell me more about what you mean when you say he does not concentrate - what is he doing ? Are his grades bad ?

Don't expect kids to respond to punishments like an enlightenment era chemist responding to evidence. Kids aren't wired that way. They aren't necessarily going to weigh the consequences of their actions vs. Demonstrated punishments.

You mention a lot of different ways of telling her what she did wrong, but how consistently have you stuck with one disciplinary strategy? I'm sorry to tell you, you might have a long haul ahead of you. There was never a eureka moment or breakthrough, but rather every year the child will gradually improve, with plenty of backsliding along the way.

My advice is to create a stable environment, clear expectations, and be patient. This isn't some riddle with an answer and then its over. This is fourteen years of doing the right thing and trusting that it will make a difference in the long run.

Does she get enough sleep?

Adopt an "act, don't yak" policy as your immediate reaction to unwanted behavior.

React by calmly putting her down and walking away without a saying a word. This is called "planned ignoring" (google it). It will work for harmless annoying behaviors that function as attention getters. It will also work for this kind of aggression against you unless the function of the aggression is to get you to go away. It may take a few days of consistency before it goes away or it may happen much faster.

If you already do "timeouts" when he gets angry - Perhaps you are not doing them right. If so, course I recommend below will fix that. And, you may have to be consistent for two weeks or longer before you see a big improvement even for the most effective methods.

One common blunder with timeout is to give them attention (scolding, warning, explaining, getting emotional) in reaction to the unwanted behavior before you put them in timeout. This tends to nullify the effects of time-out.

You can use time-out or mild restrictions for each and every infraction without any 1-2-3. Think of it as just "Magic". Make a rule then always enforce the rule for each infraction without warnings.

I suggest you do things with the goal of changing behavior. If you set some other goal then you may never get behavior change. But you have to figure out what works. Time-out is short for "time out from reinforcement" and that is what it is for where the reinforcement is attention. Planned ignoring has the same effect. Timeout is planned ignoring with relocation. The function of relocation is to stop an activity that cannot be ignored.

Use the methods in the free online ABCs of Child Rearing video course. This tells you how to use the most effective system of methods based on randomized controlled trials.

The course will teach you to ramp up good or acceptable behaviors to replace or crowd out unwanted behaviors. This makes all the other methods for reducing unwanted behaviors more reliable and faster.