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So the irritability you are feeling can be anxiety and depression.
You’re not a bad person. You’re just dealing with a stage in life that is not what you expected it to be. What is not helpful is other people telling you how you should feel or act regarding this stage in life.
You need to set aside time, and ask (with gusto), for time to reconnect with yourself. Choose something that reconnects you with yourself and your youth and hope to do everyday for 20-45 minutes.
You’re worth it.
It’s also helpful to understand your worst triggers and find ways to avoid them. For instance I’m a terrible morning person and add that to waking up to a messy house. It’s just not good. So I make a point of going through the house at night before going to bed setting things to rights so I wake up to a happy orderly home. I just started making cold brew coffee overnight in the fridge and it’s a game changer too. I try to keep breakfast simple or prepare it ahead of time to be heated up.
You probably have very different triggers so if you’re not aware of what they are, start to record your outbursts and circumstances down, and review in a couple weeks.
With both your husband and your toddler, challenge yourself to start looking for the positives. Try to say "yes" more often than "no" (that means setting up your kid for success, not putting the kid in situations where you'll have to be nagging them constantly). Look for opportunities to praise or thank them. It might feel a bit forced at first, but really try to get in the mindset of remembering what you're grateful for about them, and making sure they hear it at least as often as they hear the negativity. (And while you're at it, try to do the same thing for yourself too - what are you grateful for about yourself? what do you love about you? trust me, there's still plenty to love even if it doesn't feel like it right now, you just have to look for it).
There's also nothing wrong with putting YOURSELF in "time out" if you need a few minutes to catch your breath - it's actually a great lesson for your kiddo, that everyone gets mad sometimes and can handle that anger responsibly by taking a minute to calm themselves.
Hi you must not let your baby watch that, there occurs strain on eyes, avoid any kind of screen till 3 yrs of age
Hi that's behavioural and you need to try to remove thumb every time after the baby is six months above you can them apply lemon on the thumb
Assuming each kid also whines at home, use Howard Glasser's "Toys R Us" principle.
What if the kid's favorite toy automatically shut off and stopped working every time he whined? What if it automatically came to life when the kid ceased to whine? The kid would most likely learn to give up whining.
Well, you, the parent, are actually the kid's favorite toy.
When is he not whining, come to life. Talk to him, give him face-time and affectionate touch, be lively and enthusiastic.
When he whines, shut down, become unresponsive, don't talk to him, don't look at him, look away, move away, read a magazine, look out the window. (When you first start doing this, the whining may get worse for a day or two, the "extinction burst", and then slowly fade away.
Note that a 1 yo will have times of actual emotional distress where they need emotional support. So, use your parental judgement and intuition about when to apply this method.
Have you asked her why she’s acting like that? Kids need to understand that they need to talk to their parents about their feelings and thoughts and that you as her parent value her and whatever she has to say or think. She doesn’t seem to have any way to express her feelings and seems to be taking it out on everyone so it might be a good time to get her into different kind of time consuming activities. Was anyone bullying her before she started acting like this? Were there any changes in her life right before she started acting like this? New teacher, friend moved away, family member left, etc?
It's a tough age - hang in there! One thing that worked for my nieces when they were little was offering them a choice of two different options. I always tried to keep it simple, but it gave them a sense of control. For example, in the morning while getting ready for work, I would say something like "Would you like to snuggle for 5 more minutes and then eat breakfast? Or would you like to get dressed now and then eat breakfast?" Just be sure that you only offer up choices that you can live with when she is being difficult about something:)
Let her watch rhymes but not while watching TV. Not a good habit.
My girl is doing this since she was 4 months old.... Its Bcz we live in nuclear family and she don't see others people in home, so it's obvious